My daughter came to me two weeks ago to tell me that she was thinking of sex with her boyfriend of three months. After a lengthy conversation with her about emotions, not rushing into things and being careful, we booked a doctor’s appointment, and I went with her today to discuss options.
The outcome is that, next week, my not so little girl will have a contraceptive injection that lasts 3 months. Of course, we have discussed safe sex and STI’s, and she promises to keep herself protected in that respect too.
Now, I think I’ve done the sensible thing. The doctor also thought it was sensible, and commented on how grown up my daughter is to be discussing it all with her mum.
However, there are a couple of people I’ve spoken to about it that seem to think I’m doing wrong by my 16 year old, and that I’m encouraging her to have teenage sex. Is it really encouragement, or is it living with the fact that she’ll probably do it anyway, whether I know about it or not, and making sure that she does it safely? I don’t think I can stop her, if she really wants to do it, so am I not just making sure she is prepared? I’m proud of her for coming to me, it can’t be an easy subject to broach with your mum, and I’m proud of the relationship we have. Honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way.